Part 3

Al-Husayn, may Allaah be pleased with him, described some of the manners of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, saying, I asked my father about the conduct of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, among those who were with him, and he said: 'The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was always cheerful, even-tempered and lenient; he was not rude, harsh, boisterous, foul, censorious or overly humorous. He overlooked what he did not like and he did not disappoint a hopeful person nor blame him. He gave up three qualities of people: he did not disparage or rebuke anybody, nor did he track their faults. He only spoke about things for which he wished their reward, and whenever he talked, the attending people would listen attentively. When he talked, they would be silent; if he was silent, they would talk. They did not argue in his presence, and he laughed at what they laughed at and wondered about what they wondered about. He endured the

English.islamweb.net/emainpage Page 18 needy person, assist him. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, did not accept praise except from a good Muslim nor would he interrupt any person until he had finished or left." [At-Tirmithi]

Contemplate the manners and behavior of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, one by one and endeavor to adhere to them because they are an embodiment of all that is good. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to teach those with him their religious affairs. The following are some examples: - The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "Whoever dies while invoking anything other than Allaah as a rival (to Him), will enter Hell." [Al-Bukhaari] - The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe; and a Muhaajir (Emigrant) is the one who abandons what Allaah has forbidden." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim] - The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "Give glad tidings to those who walk to the mosques in the darkness, for they will be given a perfect light on the Day of Resurrection." [At-Tirmithi and Abu Daawood] - The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "Strive against the polytheists with your wealth, lives and tongues." [Abu Daawood] - The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "(It might happen that) a slave (of Allaah) utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without considering its repercussions), with which he falls into Hell farther than the distance between the east and the west." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

English.islamweb.net/emainpage Page 19 not been sent as an invoker of curse (upon people); rather, I have been sent as a mercy to them." [Muslim] - 'Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "Do not exaggerate in praising me as the Christians praised the son of Maryam (Mary, may Allaah exalt her mention)…" [AlBukhaari and Muslim] - Jundub ibn 'Abdullaah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said, "I heard the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, five days before his death saying: 'I stand acquitted before Allaah that I took anyone of you as an intimate friend, for Allaah has taken me as His intimate friend, as He took Ibraaheem (Abraham, may Allaah exalt his mention) as His intimate friend. Had I taken any one of my Ummah as an intimate friend, I would have taken Abu Bakr. Beware of those (nations) who preceded you as they took the graves of their prophets as places of worship, but you must not take graves as mosques; I forbid you from that." [Muslim] Consequently, performing prayer in the mosques where there is one grave or more is impermissible.

Daughters of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam

The day on which a female child was born was a disaster in the parents' lives and even in the life of the entire family and tribe before the advent of Islam. Therefore, burying the female children alive

English.islamweb.net/emainpage Page 20 Islamic Period of Ignorance) for fear of shame. They practiced this horrible and merciless crime in different ways. For example, if one of them had a newborn girl, he would leave her until she turned six years old and would then ask her mother to adorn her to take her to her relatives. The father would then take her to a grave that he had dug in the desert and ask the little girl to look into it. Once she did so, he would push her into the grave and cover her with sand with extreme cruelty.

From among this ignorant society, the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was sent with this great religion that honors woman as a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and an aunt.

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to love his daughters greatly to the extent that it is reported, "Whenever his daughter Faatimah, may Allaah be pleased with her, visited him, he would get up to (welcome) her, take her by the hand, kiss her and make her sit where he was sitting; similarly she used to do the same with him whenever he visited her." [Abu Daawood, At-Tirmithi and AnNasaa'i]

Despite the great love that Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, had for his daughters, he accepted the divorce of his two daughters, Umm Kulthoom and Ruqayyah, may Allaah be pleased with them, from 'Utbah and 'Utaybah, the sons of Abu Jahl patiently and for the Sake of Allaah The Almighty after the revelation of Surat Al-Masad: {May the hands of Abu Lahab be ruined, and ruined is he.} [Quran 111:1]

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, refused to abandon his dawah (Islamic call) despite the Quraysh's threats and the divorce of

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The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to welcome his daughters wholeheartedly. 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "The wives of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, were gathered with him when his daughter, Faatimah who walked like her father, came there. He welcomed her saying: "Welcome my daughter'', and made her sit on his right side, or on his left side…" [Muslim]

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was very kind to his daughters and he used to visit them and ask after them. Faatimah, may Allaah be pleased with her, went to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, complaining of her suffering because of the hand mill, but she did not find him at home. 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, was present there to whom she told (of her desire for a servant). When the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, came, 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, informed him about Faatimah's visit, may Allaah be pleased with her. 'Ali, may Allaah be pleased with him, added, So the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, came to us, while we had gone to our bed. I wanted to get up but the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "Remain in your place." Then he sat down between us until I found the coolness of his feet on my chest. Then he said: "Shall I teach you a thing which is better than what you have asked me? When you go to bed, say, 'Allaahu-Akbar (Allaah is The Greatest)' thirty-four times, and 'Subhaan Allaah (Exalted is Allaah) thirty-three times, and 'Alhamdu-lillaah (Praise be to Allaah) thirty-three

We have a good example in the patience of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who despite losing all his children, except Faatimah, may Allaah be pleased with her, during his lifetime, neither slapped his face, tore his clothes, nor held a gathering for receiving condolences when mourning the death of his children. Rather, he was patient and satisfied with the Decree of Allaah The Exalted and sought His reward.

The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, left us great recommendations and Hadeeths in this regard. For example, he said: "Any Muslim who suffers some calamity and says that which Allaah has commanded him, 'Indeed, we belong to Allaah and indeed to Him shall we return: O Allaah, Reward me for my affliction and give me something better in exchange for it.'" [Muslim] Allaah The Almighty made these words as a shelter for the distressed people and promised the patient people a great reward. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account."} [Quran 39:10]

Within the boundaries of the small family, the wife is everything to her husband as the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said: "The

English.islamweb.net/emainpage Page 23 righteous wife." [Muslim]

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was very kind to his wives. For instance, he used to call 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, by a nick name ('Aa'ish). She said, "One day, the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said to me: 'O 'Aa'ish! This is Jibreel (Gabriel, may Allaah exalt his mention) greeting you.'" [AlBukhaari and Muslim]

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who is the best and most honorable human being, was very lenient, gentle and considerate towards his wives in such a way that reveals the extent to which he understood their psychology as women and wives. 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "I would drink when I was menstruating, then I would hand it (the vessel) to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and he would put his mouth where mine had been, and drink, and I would eat meat from a bone when I was menstruating, then hand it over to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and he would put his mouth where mine had been." [Muslim]

Contrary to the false allegations of the hypocrites and Orientalists, the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was very gentle and compassionate towards his wives. 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, once kissed one of his wives and went to perform prayer without performing ablution." [Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi] In many situations, the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, was keen on stressing the great status of women in his life. He declared his love for his wife expressly, seeing nothing wrong in this. 'Amr ibn Al- 'Aas, may Allaah be pleased with him, asked him, "Who is the most

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Whoever searches for true marital happiness, should contemplate the hadith in which 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "I and the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to take a bath from a single water container, from which we took water simultaneously." [Al-Bukhaari]

The Prophet of this Ummah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, never missed a chance to please his wives with all that is lawful under the Sharee'ah (Islamic law). 'Aa'ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, "When I was young and before I put on much weight, I went out on a journey with the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam. He asked the people to go ahead, and called me to race with him. I beat him in running. Then, he did not ask me any more to race with him for a while. Later on, after I gained weight and forgot that I had beaten him in the race, I was again on a trip with him. He asked the people to go ahead of him for a distance. Then, he asked me: "Come, let us run a race!" Thus, we raced and he beat me this time. He began laughing and said, "This for that!" [Ahmad]

Indeed, it is a sweet joke and special attention from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, who asked the people to go ahead so that he could race with his wife and please her. Then, he reminded her of a past joke saying, "….This for that."

Whoever contemplates the lifestyle of the elite in any society would be amazed about what the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to do with his wives while he is an honorable prophet, a victorious leader, a descendant of the Quraysh, and a commander who