2. Seeking assistance in changing an evil and in returning a

sinner back to what is correct (35] Ash-Sha'bee ~ reported that Ka'b bin Soor was sitting with 'Umar ~ when a woman came and said, "O Commander of the Believers! I have not seen a man better than my husband, By Allaah, he prays the night and fasts the day," Upon hearing this, 'Umar praised the woman and supplicated for her, and she shyly departed. Ka'b then said, "O Commander of the Believers! Shouldn't you have considered her accusation against her husband, for she indeed was quite eloquent in her complaint!" 'Umar replied, "Why do you not judge between them, for you have understood about her situation that which I did not." Ka'b said, "I view her situation as if she has three co-wives. My judgement is to allow her husband three days and nights for worship, and one day and night for her." 'Umar said, "By Allaah, your first understanding (of her situation) is not more amazing than the second (the judgement). I hereby appoint you as judge over AI-Basrah, and indeed, you are a remarkable judge." (lbn Abee Shaybah (verified to be authentic by AI-Albaanee in lrwaa'ul-Gha/ee/)] Narrated by Abu Juhaifa ~ : "The Prophet ~ made a bond of brotherhood between Salmaan ~ and Abu Ad-Darda' ~ - Salmaan paid a visit to Abu AdDarda' and found Um Ad-Darda' dressed in shabby clothes and asked her why she was in that state. She replied, "Your brother Abu Ad-Darda' is not interested in (the luxuries of) this world." In the meantime Abu Ad-Darda' came and prepared a meal for Salmaan. Salmaan requested Abu Ad-Darda' to eat (with him), but Abu Ad-Darda' said, "I am fasting." Salmaan said, "I am not going to eat unless you eat." So, Abu Ad-Darda' ate (with Salmaan). When it was night and (a part of the night passed), Abu Ad-Darda' got up (to offer the night prayer), but Salmaan told him to sleep and Abu Ad-Darda ' slept. After sometime Abu Ad-Darda' again got up but Salmaan told him to sleep. When it was the last hours of the night, Salmaan told him to get up then, and both of them offered the prayer. Salmaan told Abu Ad-Darda', "Your Lord has a right on you, your soul has a right on you, and your family has a right on you; so you should give the rights of all those who has a right on you." Abu Ad-Darda' came to the Prophet ~ and narrated the whole story. The Prophet #1: said : , ,,,, ,,, 0 w..::. J..w, "Sa/maan has spoken the truth." (Bukhaaree) Guarding the Tongue One should say to the individual whom he expects has the capability of putting a stop to the evil: "Such-and-such person did this, so I prevented him from it" or something to that effect. His objective should be to look for a way to ultimately put an end to the evil. If he does not intend that as his goal, then it is forbidden (for him to mention it).l361