Part 7

`Amr Ibn Murrah Al-Juhanni said, "A man came to the Messenger of Allah and asked, 'OMessenger of

Allah, what do you say if/pray obligatory duties, fast during Ramadan, give due zakah on my Y1-'ealth, and

perform Hajj if I am able to do so, what is my reward?' The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, 'He who does

this, he will be with the prophets, truthful people and the martyrs unless he disrespects his parents."3

It was related that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "May Allah curse he who shows disrespect to

It was narrated. Also that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

"In the night of /sra' (Night Journey) / saw groups of people in the Hell-Fire hanged on trunks of fire. /

asked, "Who are they, Gabriel?" He said, "They are those who revile their parents in this world."

Bishr said, "Whoever is intimated by his mother and listens to her speech is better than the one who

fights with his sword in the cause of Allah. Gazing at her surpasses every thing. Once a man and a woman

presented before the Prophet (pbuh) arguing about their child. The man said, "O Messenger of Allah, he is

my child who was created from my loins (backbone)." On the other hand, the woman said, "O Messenger

of Allah he bore him lightly and proceeded it out of lust. But I bore him in travail, delivered him in travail

and suckled him during two full years." Thereupon, the Prophet judged for the mother."4

In the Prophet's lifetime, there was a young man called Alqamah. He was so devout that he exerted great

efforts in performing many prayers, fasting and spending money in charity. He had a fatal disease that his

wife informed the Prophet (pbuh) that her husband was dying. Thereby, the Prophet (pbuh) sent `Ammar,

Suhaib and Bilal to instruct the dying to say the testification of Faith. When they arrived there, they found

him dying. Therefore, they began to instruct him to say there is no god but Allah, but he could not repeat it.

They returned to the Prophet (pbuh) to consult him. Then, the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Did he have living

parents?" They said, "He had an aged mother." Accordingly, the Prophet asked them to bring her if she was

able to walk. Otherwise he himself will go there. When being informed by the Prophet's message, the

mother said, "I sacrifice him with my soul. I will go to him." She then went to him leaning on a staff. After

greeting, the Prophet (pbuh) said; "O mother of Alqamah, tell me the truth and if you lie Allah will reveal

me the truth. How was Alqamah?" She said, "He performed much prayers, fasting and spending money in

charity." Then, the Prophet (pbuh) asked, "What about you?" She said, "O Messenger of Allah! I am angry

Reported by AI-Bukhari and Abu Dawud.

As-Sini postulated it in Ad-Dur AI-Manthur.

Reported by AI-Haithami in Majma' AI-Zawa'id

There is no hadith similar to this statement

with him." The Prophet asked, "Why?" She said, "Because he prefers his wife to me and also disobeys me."

Then, the Prophet (pbuh) said, "The anger of Alqamah's other holds Alqamah's tongue to utter the

Afterwards, the Prophet said, O Bilal, go and gather a pile of wood." The woman said, "Why, Messenger

of Allah?" The Prophet said, "To bum him before your eyes." She said, "O Messenger of Allah, he is my

son! I cannot endure that he be burnt before my eyes." Then, the Prophet said, "But Allah's torture is more

severe and lasting, mother of `Alqamah. So if you like him to be forgiven by Allah, you forgive him. By

Whom in Whose hands my soul is, what he performed of prayers, fasting and charity is of no avail so long

as you are angry with him."

Then, she said, "O Messenger of Allah, may Allah the Almighty, his angels and all Muslims who are

present witness that I forgive my son, Alqamah." Thereupon, the Prophet said, "Go to him, Bilal to see

whether he can utter the testification of Faith or not? She might forgive him out of shyness." Approaching

Alqamah's house, Bilal heard him saying, "There is no god but Allah" Then, the Prophet (pbuh) ordered

them to prepare the funeral, washing and shroud. Then, he prayed over him and witnessed the funeral.

Then, the Prophet stood in front of the deceased grave and said, "O Muhajirin (Emigrants) O Ansar

(Helpers), he who prefers his wife to his mother entails the curse of Allah, His angels and the whole people.

Allah never accepts his deeds or a reason unless he makes repentance, treats his mother well and asks her

consent. This is because Allah's consent is conditioned on the mother's and His wrath is hers."1

Reported by Ibn Hajar AI-Haithami.

9) Severing the Ties of One's Relatives

Allah, the Most High, says,

{Fear Allah, through Whom ye demand your mutual (rights) and be heedful of the wombs.} (An-Nisa': 1)

{Then it is to be expected of you, if ye were put in authority, that ye will do mischief in the land, and break

your ties of kith and kin: Such are the men whom Allah has cursed for He has made them deaf and blinded

{Those who fulfill the covenant of Allah and fail not in their plighted word; those who join together those

things which Allah hath commanded to be joined, hold their Lord in awe, and fear the terrible reckoning.}

Allah, the Most High, says,

{He causes many to stray, and many He leads into the right path,. But He causes not to stray, except those

who forsake (the path), those who break Allah's covenant after it is ratified, and who sunder what Allah has

ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth: Those cause loss only to themselves.} (Al-Baqarah: 26-27)

"He who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise."1

Thus, whoever abandons his relatives, is proud over them and disdains to support the needy if he is rich

is included in this punishment unless he repents to Allah the Most Exalted and treats them well.

It was related that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

"Whoever has feeble kins and does not treat them well and pays his charity to others and neglects them,

Allah does not accept his charity and will not look to him on the Day of Judgment."2

But whoever is poor should keep good terms with them, visit them and be heedful of them.

Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

"Wet your wombs (relationships) even by just greeting."1

"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should have a link with his kins."2

"A person who reciprocates in doing good is not the one who joins his blood relations generously,' but he is

one who joins with his blood relations when they cut with him."3

"Allah Almighty says, "I am the Merciful and it is the womb i.e. blood relation. I will hold by him who hold

by it; and I will cut asunder from him who cuts asunder from it."4

Ali Ibn AI-Husain, may Allah be pleased with him, said to his son, "O son do not befriend he who severs

the ties of his kins since I have found him cursed in Allah's Book three times."

One day, Abu Hurairah, May Allah be pleased with him, sat to deliver a lesson about the people's tradition?

Then, he said, "I hope that anyone of you who severs the ties of his kins to leave us." A young man sitting

at the end of the circle left. The young man went forward to his aunt whom he did not visit for years and

reconciled her. His aunt asked him: "Why did you come, my nephew?" He said, "When I sat to listen from

Abu Hurairah, the prophet's companion, he said, "I hope anyone of you who severs the ties of his kills to

leave us." Then, his aunt asked him to go back to Abu Hurairah to ask him about the reason. Thereupon,

Abu Hurairah answered: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) saying, "Mercy is not showed upon a

group of people among them is someone who severs the ties of his kins."5

Once, a wealthy man when traveling to at the Sacred House in Mecca to perform Hajj (pilgrimage),

deposited one hundred thousand Dinars to a trusty and righteous man until he returned from' Arafat.

Having stood on Arafat, he returned to Mecca to find that the man was dead. He asked the deceased family

for his money. But they knew nothing about the money. Accordingly, he explained the plight to the

scholars of Mecca who then told him to approach the Zamzam well at midnight and then call upon the man.

If he answered you the first time you called, he was among the people of Paradise. But the man went back

to them after doing what they said with no response. Thereupon, they said, "To Allah we belong and to

The man might be of the people of Fire. Thus, you have to go to Yemen where there is a well-called

Barhut. It is said that this well is at the mouth of the Hell, and call upon the man at midnight. Therein, if he

is among the people of Fire he will answer youHaving arrived in Yemen and approaching the well, he

called upon the man and the man responded. He asked him about the wealth. He told him that he had buried

it in such and such a place. Thus, you could go there and dig to regain your wealth. Then, he asked him

why he was in such a (horrible) place though we thought good of you?" He said, "I had a poor sister whom

I abandoned and did not treat her well. Thereby, Allah punished me because of her."

This is shown in the Prophet's hadith,

lbn Hajar AI-Hathami mentioned it in Majma' Al-Zawa'id and said it is reported by Al-Bazzar.

This is a false story.

"He who severs the ties of his family will not enter Paradise."1

{Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is an indecent (deed) and an evil way.} (Al-Isra': 32)

{Those who invoke not, with Allah, any other god, Nor slay such life as Allah has made sacred, except for

just cause, nor commit fornication,' -and any that does this (not only) meets punishment. (But) the

chastisement on the Day of Judgment will be doubled to him, and he will dwell therein in ignominy.}