5. Would you like to meet him outside the institution? (cont.)

Similarly, if you have a huge balance with a person and one day end up angering him, you withdraw only a small percentage from your emotional bank balance due to the huge original balance. If a beloved comes with one vice, His virtues come to the rescue with a thousand intercessors However, if you don't have an emotional bank balance with a person to begin with and then begin to withdraw, then your account with him will be in deficit. Subsequently, he may develop a dislike for you since you continue to withdraw but never deposit. You may have heard the story about a wife who was divorced by her husband. When asked about the reason for the divorce, she said, "It was a trivial reason. He wanted me to go with him to see his sister and I refused. He became angry and began insulting and cursing me, and then eventually divorced me!" The emotional bank balance If you contemplate a little why she got divorced, you would discover that the reason was not as trivial as she claimed. Rather, the incident was the last straw that broke the camel's back! It is said that there was once a man who had a strong camel. One day he decided to travel, so he placed all his belongings on the camel's back and tied it up. The poor camel tried to withstand the pressure as he managed to place on its back the load of four camels. The camel began to waver as the people shouted at the man saying, "Enough!" But the man didn't listen. He finally took a belt made out of straw and placed it on the camel, saying, "This is very light, and this is the last thing I will place on it." As soon as he placed the belt on it, the camel fell to the ground. Thus, his story became an idiom and it was said, "The last straw which broke the camel's back!" If you think about it, you will realise that the belt was quite innocent, for it was not the belt that broke the camel's back. Rather, the back was broken due to the heavy overall load that was placed on it, which it tried to withstand with patience until it could stand it no longer. The miniscule weight of the belt then finally broke its back. The same goes for the woman who was divorced by her husband. I can say for certain that the reason was not just the fact that she refused to visit his sister. Rather, it was a number of things including refusing to fulfil his requests and his wishes, the lack of love between the two, her arrogance and the lack of respect she had for his views. She continued to withdraw from her emotional bank account without depositing anything. She continued to hurt him without healing his wounds. He continued The emotional bank balance to bear her with patience, until this incident happened which broke the camel's back. If she were to have contributed to her emotional bank account on a regular basis by meeting him nicely, spoiling him a little, making herself beloved to him, joking and being light-hearted with him, taking care of his food and clothes and respecting his views, she would have had a huge emotional bank balance. She would have been a millionaire in his heart. Consequently, it would not have mattered much if her emotional bank balance decreased slightly because her wrong actions would have disappeared in the sea of her virtues. You can say the same about a troublemaking student who has made one mistake due to which his teacher become very angry and perhaps hit him, or threw him out of the classroom. Then the student may complain, "Such-and-such a colleague of mine does things much worse than me, yet he isn't punished! As for me, then I didn't do anything, except that I made a joke without permission." He doesn't realise that the joke was the last straw which broke the camel's back. He had always hurt his teacher without healing his wounds. The same can be said about colleagues or neighbours who argue amongst each other. Hence, we are always in need of depositing into the emotional bank balance that lies in people's hearts. The husband should look for opportunities to deposit into his wife's heart and continue to increase his points. The wife should do the same. The son should likewise deposit some love in his father's heart, as should the teacher with his students and a person with his brother. In fact, even the manager should do the same with those The emotional bank balance who work under him. In short... If a beloved comes with one vice, His virtues come to the rescue with a thousand intercessors The emotional bank balance (80) The magician "It is free to talk, so please, say some sweet words!" This is how the poor lady began chastising her husband.