5. Would you like to meet him outside the institution? (cont.)

Or, if one was at a dinner party and you noticed him holding his plate, looking for a table with empty space, and he therefore vacated a seat for him, saying: "Welcome! Please have a seat here," he would have noticed the concern for him. Therefore, if one shows people that he values them, they would love him. The Prophet would give utmost importance to this. Look at when he was delivering a sermon once on his pulpit one Friday, and suddenly a Bedouin entered the mosque, walked through the rows, looked at the Messenger of Allah and said in a loud voice: "O Messenger of Allah, I am a person who does not know what his religion is. Teach me what my religion is!" The Prophet descended from his pulpit and turned to the man. He asked for a chair, then sat on it, and then began to speak to the man and explain to him his religion until he understood. He then returned to the pulpit. Be concerned about others This is a demonstration of having the utmost care for people. Who knows, if he had ignored him, the man may have remained ignorant with regards to his religion until he died. If we were to learn about his character, we would find that when he would shake someone's hand, he wouldn't withdraw his hand until the other person withdrew his hand first. If a person were to speak to him, he would completely turn towards him, meaning that he would turn his face and body towards him, in order to listen with full attention. Experience… …tells us that whenever you show people that you value and care for them, you capture their hearts and are thus endeared to them. Be concerned about others (25) Show them that you want the best for them Whenever your heart becomes filled with love and sincerity towards others, you naturally become earnest in your skills in dealing with them; people begin to feel your love for them, and in turn, they too begin to increase in their love and acceptance of you. A female doctor's private clinic was always full of patients. The patients always wanted to visit her as each of them felt that she was their personal friend. This female doctor would employ various skills that would spellbind people's hearts. One of those skills was that she agreed with her secretary that if any of the patients ever called, wanting to speak to the doctor or to ask her something about an illness, the secretary would welcome her, ask her name, then kindly request her to call back after five minutes. The secretary would then open up her health record and hand it over to the doctor. The doctor would read all the information about the patient, look into the record, and become acquainted with all her information, including her work, and even her children's names. Then, when the patient would call back, she would welcome her and enquire about her illness, about her youngest child, and general news about her work, etc. The patient would then feel that this doctor really liked her to such an extent that she even remembered the names of her children as well as the illness she is suffering from. The doctor did even not forget where she worked! Not surprisingly, this patient would be inclined to visit this particular doctor each time she needed medical advice. See how easy it is to win and captivate hearts? There is nothing wrong in expressing your love for others frankly, be the person a father, mother, wife, child, colleague or neighbour. Do not hide your feelings towards them. Proclaim your love to them by saying, "I love you", "You are very precious to me", etc. Even if this person happens to be an open sinner, you could say to him, "You are more beloved to me than many others!" And you wouldn't have lied, since surely they are more beloved to you than millions of diselievers, isn't that so? Be smart! I remember once I went to perform 'Umrah. I was in the middle of performing Tawaaf and Sa'ee, praying for all the Muslims generally, that they be protected and granted victory and dominion. I also probably said something like, "O Allah, forgive me, my beloved ones and my friends." After finishing the rituals of 'Umrah, I praised Allah for making it easy for me. I then rented out a room in a hotel to spend a night therein. As I rested my head on the pillow, I wrote a text message on my mobile phone saying, "Just now, I have finished my 'Umrah and remembered my beloved ones. And because you are one of them, I did not forget you in my supplications. May Allah protect you and give you all ability" – End of message. I sent this to all the names stored in my telephone memory, Show them that you want the best for them that is, about five hundred people.